When one falls in love with in reality do not see the other as a whole, but that the other works like a screen where the boyfriend projected their idealized aspects. The feelings, unlike the passions, are more durable and are anchored to the perception of external reality. The construction of the love begins when I can see that I have in front, when I discover the other. It is there when love replaces the love.
Past that initial moment begin to come to light the worst parts mine that also in the project. Loving someone is the challenge of undo those projections to truly relate to the other. This process is not easy, but it is one of the most beautiful things that are happening or that we help to occur.
We talk about love in the sense of "we care about the well-being of the other". Nothing more and nothing less. How to love, like the well-being that invades body and soul and that takes hold when i get to see the other without wanting to change it. More important than the manner of the other, care about the welfare that i feel at his side and well-being by my side. The pleasure of being with someone who deals with that one this good, who sees what we need and enjoy in so doing liberates us, it really makes the love.
A couple is more than a decision, is something that happens when we feel united with another in a different way. I could say that from the pleasure of being with another we took the decision to share a large part of our life with that person and we discovered the pleasure of being together. Although you need to know to find a companion of path is not sufficient; it also requires that the person is capable of nourishing ourselves, as we already said, that in fact it will be an effective aid in our personal growth.
True love exists when we love so we know that that person can become, not only for what it is.
"Love is rather a relationship in which the other person is not actually recognized as truly another, but rather felt and understood as if it were a double of yourself, perhaps in the male version and eventually equipped with features that correspond to the idealised image of what one would like to be. In love there is a i love to see me reflected in it"
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Sounds easy, even simple, but it is not. We must be prepared to lose something to gain something better. Willing to lose what we work for a long time, in order to gain something new, different and better.
Many times it is necessary to win… lose when we are in a relationship with your partner that has become stormy, when those same dreams that one day fed our lives are no longer, when that person that was your life was, tea has been unfaithful… or when your friends with the who and dad your joys and sorrows are no longer there for you, are too busy to attend.
Your marriage has been horrible, just want to keep it all a bad dream for awakening of all these sad realities… in all these situations, one must lose to win.
There is to lose, release what does not make us well, although it is something that we strive and we thought long ago. You cannot be all the time talking about the suffering and injustices that we live, we must be willing to release, leave behind… lose to win.
It clear that you will suffer, you're going to cry, but what is worth more? Will be a time in silence, a cleaning inside to be able to exit the light, to be able to give to life another chance and try to live in a calm manner. For fear of loneliness just clinging to memories, to what we have won and what time we have been saving. Everything in life it takes effort, why costs drop and lose. But nothing in this life belongs to us, even our own life, everything is borrowed, nothing is eternal… That's why I invite you to do this reflection: many times we must lose to stand up and win again.
Remember their life was like before they arrive so many problems and suffering are holding in their hearts. Where was this person that eras before, with dreams of success and projects? Where is that fighter that person more than once was model to follow for other people? What was the person with purpose and vision that once?
You try to search within your being that step with the person who once thou wast, and think again that you are very special.
Returns to believe in yourself, in your capacity to love and make progress in what you propose. Think again that if you want to work on something, you can do it. Returns to be a safe person for itself, as you've been in the past, more than now ... before it reached that person that i just completely annulling.
There is nothing easy laughing again without stopping, it is not easy when you just want to cry. It is not easy to get back to deliver the heart when you have broken several times, but it can be, if you put on your part you can. Only you need to be aware that there are times when it is know release, let go of what surrounds you (whether material or sentimental) and letting go those things that don't make you happy.
There is to lose to win, because within this "loss" you'll never have to be reborn, to live the life without be suffering or without being the entire day talking about your woes… There is life for you, there is hope within the pain, trust in God that he will. Make an exercise;
-Sigh- Loose… and returns to live.
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Many times by not taking risks we miss many things, among them the love, family, and even the church; and all that day because we're not, because we have laziness, or we have no time… there is always a reason to overlook the opportunities that life gives us:
When you know a person that you don't like it, but do not say so, thinking about and looking forward to getting a better time to talk with him be… but one day you realize that is no longer available, you've seen with another person and you were angry not because you are the one who walks around your arm, because that person is happy and you're not. Did you have the opportunity and the missed out, not all things revolve in our lathe, everything has its time.
When you offer a job but you don't like it, is very little for it or is far away from home. Not what you think and leave, but is costing you find a job for you and your children, or simply to let you live by your account, regardless. Wee full days and nothing, you can't find work; go back to what you ve already seen, but the plaza that labor before you offered has already been occupied. Why don't you? Since this work perhaps you could have expanded your horizons and perhaps with something in your hands you'd have a better opportunity to find other things, but we do not, you've missed the opportunity.
When you don't feel well with a family member and it hurt so much that you don't recognize in nothing: It feels like little affection and appreciation on the part of the family, and in your pride damaged you are not able to go and show love to those who you are being treated badly. Forces don't have to pay with either evil, but how we are going to do that? It would be invidious. And when you decide to go to see your family, you can no longer, so much time has passed that instead of getting closer to you have been away from much more because you were never present in the important events of the family (deaths, birthdays, anniversaries, parties, etc. ) it is already late and no one is willing to be trampled upon by you, since you are so high that hardly see what is below it. You've got to miss the opportunity to be with your family and be happy with them.
When you have something good in your eyes, and not much you appreciate her until lack. Raisins and see beautiful flowers, the field shows you a great variety of beautiful things that are a blessing for the eyes, but these so steeped in your thoughts, so depressed, so bitter, that you do not realize the wonders that God shows you.
The next time you come back to the field the flowers they will no longer be, the colorful green fields becomes of a single color, monotone and shut off because the winter comes; you'll see only loneliness and sorrows in the landscape and will treasure the times that you crossed by there without stop to breathe and enjoy so much beauty that God had put before your eyes, you've got to let the opportunity pass.
When you have children, but productive time with them. You spend so much time to work, to be with friends, to get out of the festivities and enjoy the life, that when you get home you all sleep, and almost not see them. When you realize are so large that you can no longer control. You've lost a few good years of growth in which the learning of the moral principles of good conduct are very important, but you escaped from the hands. Today your children have a life of their own and you criticize all the time by not having state. You've got to miss the opportunity to see your sons molded to your way.
Don't let us miss the moments that God gives to us in life, take up your time for everything, think what you will do in life, don't miss out the things in your hands. Opportunities often presented only once in a lifetime, and if you don't have the wisdom to see it you've lost everything.
God gives us many opportunities, but that doesn't mean that everything that we want will always be available. And so it is in life, we are presented with opportunities and let them go, and when we want to remedy this is already too late.
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In your hands is the ability to achieve that everything will be different this year: achieving changes in your life, your family, your friends, community, town, country and world. By insignificant that you feel, if you personally you bring your own grain of sand, you'll make valuable changes.
What is important to arrive at January beginning a new year is not that yesterday was a year old and today another… the important thing is to get there today by making a difference.
How?
Looking for the peace, love, having faith, hope, changing attitudes, helping and serving others, bringing us closer to God and walking in his hand… If you make your part in making things better, I have no doubt that you will succeed.
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